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labor of love
i am hoping that's enough to keep us together for the next 25 years or so, but i've read the statistics and as far as I can tell the chances of that are about 50/50. how do you stay in love with someone for the rest of your life? how do you not get bored? my girlfriend margarita asked her fiance that question yesterday and he simply said, "I don't know." and then when she asked him how you make it work for 25 years, he simply said, "Morals." the problem is that there seems to be a shortage of morals. we have become a disposable society. one that grows tired of yesterday's technology as soon as today arrives with it's newer and better temptations. we are a society with an attention deficit - no longer paying attention to those we love. easily distracted by a "younger", "smarter", "sexier" model. out with the old, in with the new. just like that. poof. ten years of marriage down the drain. a wife with three kids left to fend for herself while the husband marries a woman twenty years his junior and starts a new family just because he grew bored. ******* my husband and i live in a basement studio apartment in queens, new york. we got married at city hall. our greatest luxury is the washer and dryer in our kitchen. the refridgerator is on it's last lick. we don't have cable television or internet. we could afford it if we wanted it, but we don't need it. we don't need to eat out every night of the week. i enjoy cooking. so i usually do the cooking. unless he gets home before me. then he'll make dinner. we eat a lot of bean soups (white bean, lentil, chick pea),and we fart a lot after we eat these soups. sometimes our farting makes us laugh. sometimes it makes us cry. we like to fight over whose is worse. most nights, after dinner, we play UNO, or watch a DVD. sometimes we go out for coffee with friends. n the weekends we splurge and go for a dinner, maybe drinks afterwards. when we were first dating we'd be out until three, four in the morning. now a late night for us is two o'clock. when we were dating we'd have sex two, three, once we had it four times in one night. now we average once a night, four or five nights a week. but not without arguing first over who is going to be on top. in other words, which one of us is going to do the work! my husband likes to fall asleep with his leg draped over my body. he also likes to park his large nose in the crook of my neck. i can't sleep like that, so i usually end up pushing him off of me. he also likes to fall asleep with his hand on my belly. i don't like this very much either. it makes me very self aware of the fact that i have a belly. so we usually settle on falling asleep in our full size bed, side by side, on our backs, my right leg intertwined with his left. **** i look at my husband some days and love him so much i cry. he asks me why i'm crying. I just tell him, "Because i love you so much." and then he takes my face in his hand and kisses me. i tell him, "I don't ever want us to change. Let's always love each other as much as we do now, okay?" and then he says, "Okay." we both know that means we have to work at it. relationships aren't easy. but they are a labor of love. and i don't mind the work.
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