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being vs. doing I am dizzy this morning. I am dizzy from lack of sleep and I'm dizzy from all of the things I want to remember to write about. My husband has also been complaining about being dizzy. He's dizzy and he's tired and he gets headaches and sometimes his right ball hurts. Also he gets particles in his eyes frequently. Last night his left eye was bothering him because he had a particle in it. This comes with the job of being a carpenter of course, but I think he's also rushing through his day without taking precautions like wearing goggles to protect his eyes, or a mask to prevent him from breathing in dangerous particles. I joke with my husband that we're getting old. He tells me it isn't funny. "How the hell are we going to chase our son around the house when he's old enough? The two of us are a mess." I remind him THIS is another reason why we shouldn't have a second child. That shut him up. ***** Regarding our son, I think it is important that my husband and I have a will that implicitly states who should have custody of him should something unforeseeable, GOD FORBID, happen to both of us. I created a personal living will and testament on a great site called LEGAL ZOOM a little over a year ago, a few months after we were married. When I tried to tell my husband about it and what I wanted if something happened to me (this was before our son was conceived mind you) he got really pissed off about the fact that I want to be cremated and not buried in a casket. Then he got even more upset when I told him I was an organ donor. He's not thinking about the life saving benefits my live organs could provide someone in need of a heart or kidney. That point goes right over his head. He hits a wall at the part where he hears someone will cut out my kidney or heart, in his mind desecrate my body, and this is too much for him to accept.
So when I asked him about making a will and who he would want to put in charge of caring for our son he refused to have the conversation. I think this might have something to do with his superstitious nature. Maybe he thinks that by discussing these things it somehow makes it more likely to happen. ***** So I wanted to share an excerpt with you from "A NEW EARTH" the new Eckhart Tolle book I'm always talking about. If nothing else, then as a parent this part of the book should speak to you: How do we bring Being into the life of a busy family, into the relationship with your child? The key is to give your child attention. There are two kinds of attention. One we might call form-based attention. The other is formless attention. Form-based attention is always connected in some way with doing or evaluating. "Have you done your homework? Eat dinner. Tidy up your room. Brush your teeth. Do this. Stop doing that. Hurry up, get ready." What's the next thing we have to do? This question pretty much summarizes what family life is like in many homes. Form-based attention is of course necessary and has its place, but if that's all there is in the relationship with your child, then the most vital dimension is missing and Being becomes completely obscured by doing, by "the cares of the world," as Jesus puts it. Formless attention is inseparable from the dimension of Being. How does it work? As you look at, listen to, touch, or help your child with this or that, you are alert, still, completely present, not wanting anything other than that moment as it is. In this way, you make room for Being. In that moment, if ou are present, you aren't a father or mother. You are the alertness, the stillness, the Presence that is listening, looking, touching, even speaking. You are the Being behind the doing." I REALLY need to read this on a daily basis. A gentle reminder to myself to stop doing and just BE. It sounds so simple doesn't it? As for just being with my son, there is nothing more joyous to me than the sound of his laughter. I am never more present than when I'm doing something to make him laugh. It makes me feel so close to him. I can't explain it. ***** So, of all the toys my son has we have purchased several from TINY LOVE. My son has the clip and go mobile, the symphony mobile, the gymini and the Magiq Time DVD & doll. Our most recent purchase, the DVD & interactive doll arrived in the mail and ended up being defective. The doll is supposed to sing along, laugh and comment on things happening in the dvd, but ours did not. Their customer service is excellent. When I called they simply asked me for the product code on the toy and then told me they would send me another one in the mail. The doll arrived three business days later. I was so pleased by their response that I will now be ordering more from them. I also really like the INFANTINO line of baby products. I carry several of their products along with Tiny Love in my ONLINE STORE in association with Amazon. Check it out! For those of you mommies who don't want to order toys manufactured in china, OOMPA TOYS has an excellent selection of wooden toys manufactured in several different European countries. I also carry wooden toys. ***** Baby is crying and needs my attention. More later.
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