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confessions of an attached parent Last night we had company for the first time in months. I would have been delighted if 1.) my husband were not fighting another cold 2.) the baby wasn't so cranky from teething and belly ache 3.) I was not so damn tired 4.) it was not eight o'clock on a Sunday evening! Alright, I'll admit it, none of these things would have mattered had it been someone I like. This guy is a friend of my husband's from childhood, moved here before my husband did some ten years or so ago. Nice looking guy who married into money and cheats on his wife every chance he gets. He also was a very bad influence on my husband when they lived together in Athens in their early twenties. I won't go into detail, but I really wish my husband had not divulged any of this information to me or I might have actually liked this guy. He came last night with his three kids, his rich wife, and his mother-in-law to our little one bedroom shoebox with a huge bag full of hand-me-downs for my son. This was very nice of them and I expressed my appreciation, but couldn't help noticing his wife looking around our shoe box, a look of pity on her puglike face. I know that's not very nice. I probably wouldn't say such a thing had she not asked me why I'm not working. I wanted to tell her, "It's none of your business." Instead I nicely told her I didn't have a choice if I didn't want someone else raising my son. She then asked me where I used to work. When I told her I was a legal secretary in Manhattan she suggested that I get a job working for a firm with onsite childcare. Had she not heard a word I'd said? "Because I don't want to leave my son with strangers. Believe me I wish I had family here to help out so that I didn't have to leave my job, but I'm not as fortunate as you are." That shut her up. They stayed fifteen minutes and then I saw her give her husband one of those, "Let's go" looks out the corner of her eyes. And off they went. My husband insists that she is not a snob. He told me to give her another chance. But given the fact that I don't trust his friend, and had a bad first impression of the wife, I really don't want to give her another chance. But the clothes they left for us are fantastic....so, maybe I should. ***** My poor little bub had a hard time falling to sleep last night. I'm pretty sure his belly is bothering him, on top of the fact that he is teething. He constantly arches his back, which I read could be a sign of reflux. However, he doesn't cry out in pain, he just squirms. I will ask the doctor about this at his next appointment this week. I have found that he sleeps so much better on his belly, but I'm so paranoid about SIDS I'm constantly checking in on him to make sure he's breathing. ***** My husband dropped our taxes off for our tax attorney on Saturday and asked him what we should do about this year given the fact that he's off the books and I'm not working. The guy told him I will have to get a weekend job, at the very least, to show some form of income, otherwise it will raise a lot of red flags. I was already considering a weekend job anyway, but quickly dismissed the idea when trying to imagine myself away from my son sixteen hours a week. I know there are mothers out there who look forward to returning to work so that they can get a break from motherhood, and I understand this believe me I do, but apparently attachment parenting effects the parents as much as it does the children because I'm attached! I'm so attached that all I could think about for two hours when I was away on Saturday getting my hair done was the baby. But it was nice to get out of the house and I love my hair! So add "find weekend job" to that list of things I need to get done but never seem to find the time to do. ***** So I've been trying to focus on finding ways to generate money. Note all of the new ads on my right side bar for baby and child related products. I joined AFFILIATE FUTURE. With this company you are able to search for online businesses that are relevant to your blog. You make a percentage of sales that are generated via the ads you post. So if you're in need of anything for your child, you know where to click! The only thing is that my site is now looking incredibly "BUSY" and the more links there are, the longer it takes to load. ***** Was unable to sell my husband on the capresso expresso machine. And I really want an ottoman, one of those jobbies that you can store things inside and also flip over the cover and use it as a tray. His argument is that we have no space for it, but I have MADE space for it and he still won't relent. One thing I can say for my husband is that he doesn't say anything about the baby related products I purchase for our son. I don't have to check in with him each time I order something like this. But everything else has to be discussed ahead of time. I miss the days when I didn't have to answer to anyone about what I wanted to purchase. However, I was in debt before I met my husband, so I really have to give him credit for grounding me financially and giving me a reason NOT to spend money on unnecessary THINGS. I had better sign off for now as I have to check in on the baby. He's been sleeping on his belly for almost two hours. I cannot believe he's going to be six months in one week! Love Rose
Alan - 2008-03-24 13:51:17 |
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