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i'm no spring chicken Last night my husband asked me, YET AGAIN, if I want to have another baby. Each time he asks me I always reply with an adamant, "No", and then I go on a rant about how difficult the last pregnancy was, not to mention the labor. And then of course I have to remind him that it's just the two of us here, with no family to help us out, and we're already exhausted with just the one. And then there is the lack of space in our humble one bedroom apartment. And do we really have enough money saved to be considering a second child? In closing I remind him that I'm no spring chicken, and the older a woman gets the more risk there is of there being complications.
And then my husband, who is from Greece and doesn't understand that spring chicken is not meant to be taken in the literal sense of the word, tells me he doesn't understand why I'm talking about chicken. The truth is that I'm still not sure. (Don't tell him I said that or he'll never relent.) If I were sure I would have already given away all of the clothes my son has outgrown along with his FISHER PRICE AQUARIUM CRADLE SWING that saved our lives for so many months by putting him to sleep when everything else failed to do so. I wish I weren't 38, going on 39 in June. And I wish I weren't so gosh darn tired all the time and sometimes on the verge of losing it because I can't find time for myself and really miss having a social life. And I really wish my mother were still alive because she would have helped us out. THEN I would have seriously considered having another baby. Although a palm reader once predicted that I would have two children, I just can't imagine my life with two. And who believes in palm readers anyway? They just tell you what they think you want to hear to make a buck. Think about it. By the time the baby becomes a toddler, one of the most challenging times in a child's life, (not for the kid mind you but for the parent), I would have another infant to nurse round the clock! Are you kidding me! How do you mothers with two, three, four children on up manage? Surely you have family to help? And you were probably really young when you started out right? I wish I had met my husband when I was younger. But then he would have been really young and not ready for marriage or kids. Given the six year difference between us it probably would not have worked out. Imagine me at 30 and him at 24? So you see it all happened when it was supposed to happen and no time sooner. Who knows, I may change my mind. I sort of have it in the back of my head that if we MAYBE try to have a baby, some time in June, July, August, no later than September, and were successfuly, then I wouldn't have to carry through the summer like I did with our son and maybe it wouldn't be so bad. Carrying a baby around during the summer months in New York City is like having to carry a bowling ball around with you in hell for nine months. (Not that I know first hand what hell is, but I hear it's really hot.) Having to take the subway to get to work was grueling. The trains have air conditioning but the platforms do not. It really was like going down into the depths of hell each time I had to take the subway. Believe me you don't want to visit New York City in the summertime, let alone waddle around with an extra thirty pounds. Oh I don't know. This is one of those decisions that I can't exactly take another year to ponder. It's really a now or never kind of thing. I do worry that I will one day regret not at least TRYING to have a second child. Or that when my son is old enough to speak he'll look up at me with puppy dog eyes and ask me for a little brother or a sister and I'll have to tell him it's not possible. Another discussion that often comes up between my husband and I is our need for health and life insurance. I'm concerned that we're both walking around without coverage. Given my husband's income and the fact that I'm no longer working, the baby did qualify for government subsidized healthcare but we had a couple hundred dollars too much in our savings for my husband and I to qualify. One of the many things I need to do is request some HEALTH INSURANCE QUOTES. I found this SITE that is a one stop shop for all types of insurance, (Homeowners, Auto, Health, Life, etc.), have bookmarked it, and when I have the time I plan to read more on their life and health insurance programs. My husband doesn't see the need for life insurance. All he sees is the that we would be paying on something that we probably wouldn't need for years to come. I remind him of my friend's father who died of a heart attack in his late forties. You really just never know and we should be prepared. Are you prepared?
Elisabeth - 2008-04-03 19:52:30 |
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