

hurray for alpha mom!
2008-04-19, 8:41 p.m.
I've been working really hard to get ECO MAMA up and running and looking the way I want it. It's a big commitment finding the time to write in not one, but two blogs. It seems to be the trend with bloggers. I've noticed most people have at least two sites if not more. I just hope I don't burn out or get writers block. I always worry about boring my readers, or not having any readers at all!
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I'm tired tonight, as usual but in a good space. It is almost 9 PM, my husband just went to the laundromat and I just put the baby down to sleep. Ah, at last I have a moment to write.
I'll have you know I just wolfed down a piece of cheesecake that I purchased at the local patissere this afternoon.
Friday afternoon I received an unexpected email from a woman named Isabel inviting me to take part in a roundtable discussion in downtown Manhattan Monday night. Isabel, it turns out, is affiliated with ALPHA MOM, a great site for moms. If you haven't checked it out yet you should. I came across it one night while I was site hopping. Someone had it listed on their page and I thought it sounded interesting.
Turns out they had a giveaway, and I'm all about giveaways. So I entered it and then the next day received this email with an invitation to be part of this focus group to help Alpha Mom in their next phase of development. I'm getting the feeling they want to make it super mom friendly, and who better to ask about what kinds of things moms respond to but a group of moms!
So I called my husband, who was at work, and told him about it expecting him to scoff or say something totally uncool about what a waste of time it was, but instead he responded with a quick, and nicely put, "Okay if that's something you want to do."
Of course it helps that they're paying us a small stipend. How could he say no to fifty bucks for two hours of my time!
I am so excited that I'm going to be able to sit down with a group of moms and be part of an adult discussion. Oh, and they're also going to feed us dinner. Woo hoo!!!
I think my husband has noticed a change in me, a sort of nonchalant attitude - the feeling that I don't need his approval anymore. It's unspoken, but it's definitely there. It's not an act mind you, I feel it intrinsically, like I've moved on to a new phase in my life and he can do one of two things, join me and grow with me, or resist and stay behind.
This evening he asked me if I'd go to church with him. Next Sunday is Greek Easter, and the upcoming week is an important one for the Greek Orthodox religion. I said, "Sure.'
Then he was like, "And I was thinking we could go out for breakfast first, what do you think?"
I was like, "Sounds good, I just hope the baby doesn't have one of his meltdowns."
I am a little concerned because the last time we attempted to go out for a meal with friends the baby freaked out.
I'm trying to get him out as much as possible and expose him to more people, get him familiar with an environment outside the house.
Today I took a walk to a friend's house and there were several people there. When someone else tried holding my son he started crying and wanted to return to my arms.
I'm not sure if this is a sign of shyness, or if he's just overly attached to me because me and his father are pretty much the only two faces he sees consistently.
Anyway, like I said I think my husband is trying. Let's see how he handles it when I get a weekend invitation from a friend to get out for a couple of hours. THAT will be the real test.

YESTERDAY - TOMORROW
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Joey - 2008-04-19 23:35:28
Rose, just keep taking your son out among people. I had a very good friend who had a baby a month after I did and she stayed home and basically her daughter knew nobody. We went to a home party together and her daughter also had a melt down. She had not been socialized at all with other people. It is important to take them out, introduce him to others and he'll get used to being around people besides you. And congrats for getting some much needed sleep!!! I know it's hard, but he'll be okay in a crib. I think you're a great mother, it definitely shows. Don't be afraid to let him have a little space..and hopefully you'll start getting lots more sleep :)
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