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sduckie - 2008-03-19 18:15:36
Yes most definitely sounds like your son is an old soul...! Also, I can understand why it would have been frustrating and upsetting to talk to that guy and not have him believe you about your time... people who have not spent a significant time with children definitely don't get it, just how much work and presence they demand... and obviously that guy didn't stick around to find out. Sad for his little girl, because he obviously doesn't get that whether he is there or not, he is the primary model for the masculine in her life...and even your hubby may have an unrealistic vision of "many kids" (from his point of view and no doubt influenced by his culture) and not fully understand at this time all the work involved- cause you are the primary caretaker right now... as you mentioned a few entries ago, his life as changed too but not as much as yours... he still gets to go out, go to work, socialize, interract with the world in much the same way as before... so he may not understand the ramifications at this time whereas you do because so much has changed for you... Meantime I always admire how dedicated you are as a mom, how much reading and research you do to discover the best things for your son, what you need to do to help him have a happy and stress-free childhood. That is very admirable. It IS the most important job in the world- because the best things come from happy, well-adjusted people, and that is your goal for your son. Hooray for you! At this point in my life, Rose, when I have been looking back on my own childhood and seeing the scars that still affect me today- well I wish I had a mom who cared about me in infancy as much as you care about your son. So even if you don't always know what to do or what the "right" thing is, I'm sure he can feel the quality and intensity of your love shining through. On behalf of the rest of the planet, thanks for doing your best to raise a healthy human being. :)
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